“Busy” is a Simply a Matter of Dreams Deferred

Lately I’ve been struggling with the fact that people, me included, are chronically busy. It’s as though our life begs to be filled. With every free moment, something is stuffed into its place. Voiding us of the space to create, just be, and enjoy the moment.

Every time I hear someone say to me “I know you’re busy…” it makes me stop in my tracks. No! That is not the life I want, I don’t want to be the person who is too busy for the things that truly matter – friends, family, being present.

After all, busy seems to be the perfect excuse for not really having what we want.

I would write that book, but I don’t have time.
I’d love to spend more time with friends, but I have so much to do.
I’d change the way I structure my day, but it’s already so filled.

The list can go on and on. Think about how many dreams are deferred simply because our lives are too busy and too full. It’s time to start clearing and cleaning out the junk and the clutter.

I don’t want to wake up twenty years from no w and look back and only see hard work and busyness. Busyness is not what will make things happen in your life. Nor will it bring you joy.

The question is why do we all feel the need to follow in the footsteps of this “busy” trend. Do we feel validation from are incessant work? Are we conditioned to believe that busy means important? Or are we numbing ourselves so we don’t feel our pain – the lost dreams, the financial heartbreak, the awareness of where we are in this moment.

I am putting myself up to the challenge of stopping the “busyness.” There is plenty of time for the things and people I love, it’s a matter of getting my priorities straight. I invite you to stop the madness as well – step into the moment and break free from the pattern of overdoing, and a life chronically full with senseless obligations.

I’d love to hear what you think about the “busyness” craze?


  1. Glad you were inspired to write this. Of course when the busyness of our day gets too crazy, we can forget our people priorities! It is a good reminder that chasing the almighty dollar pales in comparison to a day spent with three beautiful daughters, laughing and being present to the moment!

  2. The ‘craze’ of it all is that we do it to ‘ourselves’, no one makes us this way, it is a bottom line choice feeling the ‘have to’ .. the ‘need to’ .. for xzy reason. Our feelings are our beacon of what brings is comfort and happiness and what not. No one can think and act for us, therefore if we want to feel great we have to act so. Though I allocate my weekends to be the no workdays zones, I still find myself working late during the week – so I am going to work on letting it go + knowing it’s ok to do so starting TODAY. Thanks for the reminder Andrea. There is a quote from Oprah that I leave in my email inbox as a reminder:

    “Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.”

    .. I add ‘enjoy the moment and not allow it to zoom by’. That said, I gotto go enjoy working on a new eDecorating design :) andstill have time for

  3. Busyness is like a fog… it’s hard to look beyond it when you’re inside. You just know that it’s limiting your ability to see. I love that the way to clear the fog is just to be still, to stop pushing.

    Here’s a question. Is busy more about feeling your time filled with obligations or just filled? I’d argue for the former, since there are things most of us could do all day and not feel busy.

    I love this question Andrea, since it’s challenging me to consider where I invite easy busy and hard busy into my life.

  4. My wife often talks about us not “waiting to be perfect” to do things. Don’t wait until you have no debt, before you take a big vacation, and on and on. Accepting how imperfect our lives are at the same time that we’re still doing things we want to do. I keep thinking I’ll clear a huge list of items off of my to-do list and suddenly be living a totally different life than I typically lead: this still hasn’t and won’t happen soon. Getting back to the less-complicated life before 3 kids… won’t happen either. Today is a Monday and I’m again with the blank sheet of “what do I want to do this week” and a small list of “going on this week” items to manage through. So, is this a rant or ramble or just a time delay as I try to assemble my “personal list” for the week… As only a recent viewer/reader, I do like the existential quality of the postings. Not sure if you remember the “I HEART Huckabees” movie line of, “how am I not myself, how am I not myself…” Always a fun line to ponder as I look at all the “Busy” and contrast it with what I’d preferably do. Yes Andrea, I have “some” book-publishing related activities I’ll do this week, I will do some of them, and they’re all steps forward to get there. Hope you have a great week.

    • I love that line, and it’s a great one to ponder. It is amazing how we self-sabotage with excuses. Sooner or later we’ve got to SH…. or get off the pot.

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